Your counsellor will be highly skilled and trained to listen with empathy and acceptance. You will be able to talk to a counsellor about your feelings is a safe environment, free from judgement, pressure and blame. A counsellor is someone completely outside your life and outside any of the situations which cause you pain. There is no connection with your friends or your family and the counsellor has no opinion about how you should be living your life.
While a counsellor listens to how you feel, they also explore further about how you feel more deeply inside, in order to discover the underlying emotions. Emotions are the closest indicators of what is really going on for you. They are key sources of information about a person’s well-being. Exploring and working with emotions gives us the chance to truly discover and be ourselves, or to take action towards outcomes that we truly want.
Through talking about your feelings and emotions in the dedicated and safe counselling space, you can learn a lot about yourself and grow in many ways.
It’s not always easy to describe how you’re feeling. You may do this at first in a disjointed way or you may discover that you feel many things at once, or nothing, or that you feel blank or numb.
As you build a trusting relationship with your counsellor, you will begin to learn what you actually do feel and how to express it, feeling understood & valued more deeply. Through this exploration you will also uncover the deeper emotions inside you, which inform you and your counsellor what is really happening for you on a more profound level.
By knowing and understanding these deeper emotions you will be able to connect with yourself in a fundamental way. Out of this connection, this understanding and integration of emotion, comes the ability to make choices that are fully congruent with who you really are and what you really want, for you and with others. You will gain a deeper self-awareness.
This is a powerful step towards creating the ability to be happy and to create happiness for yourself in your relationships and in your life.